What do you wish
to give yourself permission for?
how interesting...
yesterday morning my husband and i were talking about this upcoming weekend
we have a few events to celebrate
i asked if he did want to go out on saturday
and he said
"of course but you said we have no one to watch the little ones so i guess its a NO"
he then said
"at some point we are going to have to start doing something together"
"getting out without the kids"
i sat and listened
i HEARD his words
the yearning in his voice
i could not argue or deny
that what he just spoke
was ever so true
it took me a moment
and then i said
"i will do my best...it will be nice"
some ten plus years ago when our first little one came into this world
i was young
i was not prepaired to be a mama
but carrying this precious gift turned life my in a different direction
at that time there was not a whole alot to LIVE for
i was just living by the moment
making the most of my days
i did not fear what was to come
just anticipated the day i would see those eyes staring back at me
the day i could brush my hands upon this little one
since ones arrival
i never really looked back
i embraced my position
and hold dear to me calling
i adore my children
and the time i spend with them
there have been few moments that i have felt neglected by my own needs
there has always been a comfortable balance
my little ones and me
hhhmmm....now you ask
what about you and him
aahh...this is where i faulter
i know and accept
i am aware
this is where the wish comes in to place...
~permission~
it is easy to fall by the way side with the one you L♥VE
the one who you made a commitment to
the one who you plan all the days of your life with
i am there
as he will always be
but i guess i am guilty of taking our relationship for granted
nurturing together...for eachother...as L♥VED ones
our children can not deepen our relationship
only us...working to keep such alive
i, faerwillow wish to give myself permission to
take more time to be in MY relationship as a wife
to give more of myself in our relationship
and
create more time together
so that we can continue to thrive
and
help our l♥ve for eachother to always flourish
p.s.~
i did find a sitter
so we shall be celebrating lot's over the weekend together...
just he & i
25 comments:
I am so happy that you found a sitter!! Hubby and I have also come to the conclusion that we must do things alone sometime. Our princess is now 14 and capable of looking after herself for an hour or two.
As faerwillow wishes for herself, so I joyfully wish for her as well!
What a beautiful wish, and this post is so beautifully and lovingly written from the heart.
As faerwillow wishes for herself, I wish for her also.
Have a wonderful time this weekend!
As Faerwillow wishes for herself, I wish for her also. Beautifully written. Have a wonderful weekend.
Many couples I know who have children make a point of having a weekly or biweekly "date night" that's just for them to go out and do something together. Sometimes they even have a rule that they can't talk about the kids while on a date night. They focus only on themselves and their relationship. Always seemed like a wise idea to me!
Yay for finding a sitter! I can understand wholeheartedly how hard it is to get that time alone with our partner. For the first 6 years of my son's life, we lived away from family and in order to get out alone we would have to pay a sitter. Sometimes, there just wasn't money....so our date night would be sitting outside with a fire and some Bailey's after Littleman went to bed. Now that I'm "home" again, I'm hoping we can actually get out a little bit more since we've got friends and family here. Have fun this weekend!
I loved this post and I wish for you lots and lots of special time spent with your husband. Have you ever read about "the five love languages"? Basically each one of us has our own "love language" that we would like to have "spoken" to us by our partner. Once we know what the other person's love language is, we can go about honoring that. My husband's top love language is quality time together which means that I would like to schedule more "date nights" together without the kids in tow. I think it's healthy for everyone when the parents can get out by themselves..even if we have to schedule it :))
what a lovely post and something that I think sometimes we can somewhat miss. I am glad to hear that you will have a weekend of bliss... enjoy it and have fun.
As Faerwillow wishes for herself, I wish for her also.
You rock on and have an outstanding time this weekend!
Good for you Faerwillow, nurture your relationship, you will both benefit.
As Faerwillow wishes for herself, so I lovingly wish for her also.
What a powerful wish! And a most important one! Your relationship will be there after the children fly the nest - you are wise to keep it nurtured!
As Faerwillow wishes for herself, so I wish for her also!
We all need to remind ourselves sometimes not to take for granted those special people in our lives. As Faerwillow wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.
As Faerwillow wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.
As Faerwillow wishes for herself, I wish for her also.
Thank you for sharing your wish with us. It is so important that you make time for just the two of you, not only to nurture your relationship, but also to show your children what a strong, loving relationship looks and acts like.
As Faerwillow wishes for herself, so I lovingly wish for her also.
As Faerwillow wishes for herself, so I wish for her also!
Good morning hon...I sooo understand this one..the thing is it is reversed here! Jim has a hard time leaving the kiddos..after almost 30 years of being a Mom..I am finally ready to get out and have a little fun with him..Nonni is six and ready to stay with a friend for a few hours...Jim not so much..like pulling teeth LOL!
I think it is so important that we remember that as the kiddos grow up and move out...we are left with each other at some point and need to care for that relationship too!! I am so thrilled that you are getting out and doing something fun together..whoot...Let Fly with the romance girl!! Have a wonderful time! Hugs and love my friend, Sarah
'Tis true all things need nurtured.
As a new parent myself (I think of my partner's children as my own), I find it hard to allow myself to do things without them. They're all old enough to be left alone for a few hours, or even over night, and when we were still just dating, we did things all the time without them... But now it's much harder... So glad you were able to find a sitter! As you wish for yourself, as I wish for you also! {{{hugs}}}
As you wish for yourself and your husband, so I wish for you both also.. More time to deepen your connection to each other and enjoy each other, may it be so.
beautiful post with words that strike perfectly to the heart ... i hear you ... you are not alone :)) thank you for the wake up call :)
i am so happy that you and yours are going to spend quality time together this weekend ... and many many more similar weekends to come :)
As Farewillow wishes for herself, so I wish for her to.
I admit I am guilty of the same thing and the problem is compounded by my beloved being in the military and thus deployed for years at a time. Thank you for this gentle reminder to make space for him and not be consumed by just one of the roles in my life.
As Farewillow wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.
Wishing you and your husband so much more lovetime together ... As Faerwillow wishes for herself I so lovingly wish this for her also. xx
As Faerwillow wishes for herself, so I wish for her also. Have a wonderful time nurturing your love for each other.
I wish you and your beloved a wonderful weekend of dating! And many more to come!!! :)
*claps hands* wonderful!!!
husband & i never nurtured 'us' and he is now gone. it was only a matter of time...
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